Wednesday, September 22, 2010

Justin Aaberg and Bullying Links

I think that these are all the links to things related to Justin and Bullying in the media:

Seth:
http://www.wegiveadamn.org/2010/09/another-tragedy-13-year-old-commits-suicide-because-of-anti-gay-bullying/
http://www.kget.com/news/local/story/UPDATE-Police-say-no-charges-in-death-of-bullied/fMemM4pc3Uiy_h8gvyac3w.cspx

Tyler:
http://www.nj.com/news/index.ssf/2010/09/hold_new_rutgers_post.html

This is a blog, but it does talk about some of the opposition we encounter:
http://lloydletta.blogspot.com/2010/08/shadow-group-forms-in-anoka-hennepin.html

Press conference coverage 09-27-10:
http://www.startribune.com/local/103902163.html
http://www.twincities.com/news/ci_16190861?source=rss

The Colu.mn has been good to us:
http://thecolu.mn/4569/new-glsen-report-shows-anoka-hennepin-avoiding-most-effective-anti-bullying-policies
http://thecolu.mn/4631/anoka-hennepin-recieved-7000-angry-emails-over-bullying-case
http://thecolu.mn/4690/national-eyes-focus-on-anoka-hennepin-controversy

Asher:
http://www.wegiveadamn.org/2010/09/houston-chronicle-parents-say-bullies-drove-their-son-to-take-his-life/
http://www.chron.com/disp/story.mpl/metropolitan/7220896.html

More articles are being brought to our attention all the time:
http://gayrights.change.org/blog/view/why_is_the_anoka-hennepin_school_board_doing_nothing_about_lgbt_suicide


A moving comment on from the Huffington Post about all of this:
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/DCmykl/lgbt-students-harassed-at_n_717992_60907185.html

Tammy speaking with MPR:
http://minnesota.publicradio.org/display/web/2010/09/23/anoka-hennepin-suicides/
A few things bother me about this. They talk about copycats but I disagree with it. The more taboo a topic is the more mystery it garners. Tell a kid an alcohol is bad, they'll drink, but tell them the facts and you have a better chance of them abstaining. Copycats are cop-outs, they already have thought of it, they just want to shrug off their responsibilities. It doesn't matter if it is drugs, suicide, or school shootings. If copycats were a big deal, the every time someone does something good and gets attention, we would have copycat volunteers. Don't look for excuses not to talk about this.

Tammy Aaberg speaking at the board meeting (The August 23rd video @15 minute mark or so I believe):
http://anoka-k12.granicus.com/viewpublisher.php?view_id=2

About Justin:
http://minnesotaindependent.com/64047/anti-gay-group-organizes-in-anoka-schools-as-community-deals-with-gay-suicides?utm_campaign=twitter&utm_medium=twitter&utm_source=twitter

About Justin:
http://theshowsogay.podbean.com/ (54th Episode)

About Justin:
http://www.wegiveadamn.org/2010/09/group-organizes-to-ban-mention-of-homosexuality-in-schools-as-community-deals-with-gay-teen-suicides/

About Justin:
http://thecolu.mn/4484/mother-anoka-hennepin-school-policy-contributed-to-gay-sons-suicide

About Justin:
http://thecolu.mn/4512/anoka-hennepin-beefing-up-anti-bullying-but-is-lgbt-left-out

About Bullying:
http://www.hrcbackstory.org/2010/09/guest-post-back-to-school-how-to-make-progress-in-your-local-school-system-%e2%80%93-part-1-of-4/?utm_source=twitterfeed&utm_medium=twitter&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+HrcBackStory+%28HRC+Back+Story%29&utm_content=Twitter

About Justin:
http://blog.tonyj.net/2010/09/back-to-school-amidst-homophobia-and-bullying/#more-2256

About Justin:
http://www.edgeboston.com/index.php?ch=news&sc=&sc3=&id=110295

About Justin:
http://www.myfoxtwincities.com/dpp/buzz/Family-Calls-For-Change-After-Gay-Teen-Suicide






About Justin:
http://wcco.com/health/glbt.teen.suicide.2.1910636.html (Don't agree with the added emphasis on the boyfriend issue, it was kind of taken out of context, but helps get the word out)

About Billy Lucas:
http://www.fox59.com/news/wxin-greensburg-student-suicide-091310,0,1101685.story (IN)

About AH-11:
The problem with this is, by removing LGBT people from history you tell the kids (that are LGBTQ), kids that you are suppose to be nurturing for the future, that they don’t exist.
http://www.anoka.k12.mn.us/education/components/whatsnew/default.php?sectiondetailid=233410&itemID=32271
Also, your policy obviously has problems when a few years later, your TEACHERS bully a student.
http://www.humanrights.state.mn.us/settlements/case51679.html
What do you think of their sexual orientation policy? If they were truly neutral than they would also remove heterosexuals, right?
http://www.anoka.k12.mn.us/education/page/download.php?fileinfo=NjA0LjExX1NleHVhbF9PcmllbnRhdGlvbl9DdXJyaWN1bHVtX1BvbGljeS5wZGY6Ojovd3d3Ni9zY2hvb2xzL21uL2Fub2thL2ltYWdlcy9kb2NtZ3IvMTUwNDlfZmlsZV80ODU4NV9tb2RfMTI2MDk5MTE5MC5wZGY=


Legislation to support:
http://thomas.loc.gov/cgi-bin/query/z?c111:S.3390:
http://thomas.loc.gov/cgi-bin/query/z?c111:H.R.2262:

I think that this is about it. If you have anymore links to add plz let me know. I am trying to get as much of this together in one post so that it is easier for people to learn and reference.

Al Franken and DADT

Tuesday, September 21, 2010

Fox 9 From 09-20-10 AND 09-21-10













The full written piece also talks about things in a little more detail and the account set up at TCF Bank called RIP Justin Norman Aaberg c/o Charlene Lundeen to help out the family.

It doesn't mention however that Chad Griffin is matching up to $1000 raised out of his own pocket.

Please watch and read this! This is so important and Fox did an AMAZING job. Thank you to both Leah and Jason.

So again, please watch. Pass the links on too. Spread the word. People need to be aware, need to care, and need to share this. We must save other kids from this fate. Bullying is an assault with a deadly weapon!

-Jay Kovach

Thursday, September 16, 2010

Reaching Out and Who To Blame

Due to a recent issue involving a young man in crisis, I have to put a call out for resources. Can anybody find me contact information to Spanish Speaking, Mexican (as in, IN Mexico), or International groups for BOTH Gay Rights/Support and Suicide Prevention/Awareness/Crisis? Thank you.

Also, with the issues with AH District 11 that we are up against, I want to remind everyone that we love that you are expressing your passion for the injustices that have occurred. However, we would like to remind you that when sending your concerns to employees of the district, remember, teachers and principals do not make the decisions so much as the superintendent and school board. We bring this to light as some hateful mail has found its way into the inboxes of supportive teachers and principals. Once again though, thank you for your support.

Wednesday, September 15, 2010

Justin Aaberg

This is this first time that I am getting the chance to make a real post in what seems like forever. This post though will go well beyond my usual personal, self-involved universe. I am going to be really, really serious and talk about something that makes me feel torn and twisted and you should too.

Things have happened so quickly that I have no real way of describing to you an accurate time line. Either way, I happened upon an article from The Minnesota Independent. As much as I can find a silver lining in some of the worst tragedies, this time I couldn't for the life of me. See, if you haven't clicked the link yet what you don't know is that this incredibly beautiful boy, only 15 years old, killed himself this last July. When you see how radiant his smile is and how bright his eyes are in the pictures, you will know that only an immense pain and burden carried on his young shoulders could bring him down. A pain that many of us in the LGBTQ community know all too well, a pain that many school systems and social structures leave us to suffer through alone when we are at our most vulnerable. Why? Ignorance, I really don't know for sure, I don't know how to make sense of it myself. Anyway, Justin was a high school student at Anoka High School, a school that says they protect the students, but I have to wonder if their removing LGBT people from history to stay "neutral" was the best idea. To me, erasing a class of people tells LGBTQ kids that they don't matter, tells other kids that it is ok to harass and torture those LGBTQ kids. Now for you who do not know what that means, LGBTQ is Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transgender and Questioning. Also, they claim to have a "neutral" sexual orientation policy but if that were truly the case they wouldn't talk about heterosexuals either. I wonder what they talk about in sex ed or what the Mrs. at the beginning of a teacher's name means? Are they so lost in their own heterosexual view point that they don't realize that we are surrounded by signs of opposite sex sexuality? I just don't get it. You can't teach a kid to be gay, I mean my parents are straight, Justin parents are straight, come to think of it, not a single one of my LGBTQ friends have parents that aren't.

This narrow viewpoint is ultimately what killed Justin, not his own hand. It almost killed me at 16. I could name many others that were almost killed by the anti-LGBTQ bullying and the marginalization they experienced. The point is, my throat tightens now even as I try to type this, but in my soul I know Justin would be here today if kids were protected. Not that people aren't trying. legislation has been introduced, but it doesn't get the attention that it deserves.

Well, after I read the initial article I contacted Tammy Aaberg to give my support and offer any aid she may need of me. See, to me, when a member of the LGBTQ community falls, I have lost a brother or sister. I mean, as a Christian I think that we should be that way towards each other all the time, maybe I am crazy for being so open and compassionate. So Tammy calls me after we exchanged many emails, WCCO was coming and she wasn't sure of what would happen so of course I agreed to come and be her support. I want to take a second and tell you that if you haven't seen the report, you should, however we don't like the odd emphasis they put on the end of a relationship that Justin had for a very short time. I was there while they were asking her questions and I feel as if it was taken out of context somehow. All in all though, the more people that find out about Justin being the 3rd confirmed LGBTQ or perceived LGBTQ student to commit suicide in a year at Anoka Hennepin District 11 the better. That's one district people. In fact, I follow GLSEN, the NOH8 campaign, the HRC, the We Give A Damn Campaign, the Trevor Project and many others on twitter and just the day before yesterday I was bombed by tweets from so many of them about a young boy in IN named Billy Lucas. He was also bullied and he also hung himself. So all those who don't think these kids should be protected, who vote against legislation like Senator Franken et. al.'s Student Nondiscrimination Act of 2010, who kick their child out of their home for being gay, and who I forget to mention but oppose anything even slightly LGBTQ related I ask: Are you happy now?

So now, I have become rather close to the Aabergs, in fact I am Tammy's assistant. She might be the most vocal and the one most people know, but I want to say something about this family, this family that has come under attack in comments and blogs. You say Justin is gone because they didn't love him enough to "make him straight." If you think that it is Justin's fault YOUR kid bullied him because of your narrow-minded upbringing, you are so ignorant. I have been staying with them during this time and I will tell you that there are very few people who I have known to be as accepting and loving as this one. Shawn, Tammy's husband, is a soft spoken and kind man who has promised to teach me how to play cards. Her oldest, Andrew, and I have found so much in common and he has never once acted like my sexuality being different than his mattered. At 18, if I had a friend like that, maybe I wouldn't have made some of the horrible choices I had. Their youngest son, whose name I choose to not share, is bright and funny and sensitive. Tammy and I of course became fast friends. This family is all about love AND acceptance. These are real people that you are judging. Justin was so lucky to have them, but because of those who treated him like dirt, like the boys who physically assaulted him in school and grabbed his crotch saying something like, "You like this, don't you?", because nobody followed through on punishments or told his family this was happening, because he went to school in a world that acted like he shouldn't exist, no love, not even theirs was enough. Everywhere he turned outside of his home turned its back on him and Lord knows he couldn't hide in his parent's basement for his entire life. Now, some people may be saying to themselves that there is no way I could know what he was thinking. You're right. I have a really good guess at it though because I've been there. I bet a good portion of you identify with that too.

Write to your politicians, call them about the Student Nondiscrimination Act of 2010 and try to stop this from happening again, please! Meanwhile, we will keep up our fight to stop bullying and eventually put LGBT people back in history.

For more links about Justin go to my blog entry titled "My Rolling Facebook Statuses, Please Use!" or Google Justin Aaberg.

Tuesday, September 14, 2010

Inspire

You’re my muse, my angel.
Your beauty, your truth, your drive,
You inspire me and I SEE you.
I do not need you, I do not rely on you,
I will not cry upon your shoulder when I am weak,
But I will find strength in your courage.
You are not responsible for me,
I CHOOSE to bask in your intensity.

My Rolling Facebook Statuses, Please Use!

These are some of my rolling statuses for Facebook and other venues that I deem appropriate. Reposting these on your status is a simple, quick, and easy way to show your support in the fight against bullying. Thank you!

Although we don’t agree with the extra emphasis they have put on the ending of a short lived relationship that Justin had with a ‘boyfriend’ the message of what happened and is happening is relevant. Please check it out: http://wcco.com/education/glbt.teen.suicide.2.1910636.html

Articles about what has been happening in Anoka to LGBTQ teens:
http://minnesotaindependent.com/64047/anti-gay-group-organizes-in-anoka-schools-as-community-deals-with-gay-suicides?utm_campaign=twitter&utm_medium=twitter&utm_source=twitter
http://thecolu.mn/4484/mother-anoka-hennepin-school-policy-contributed-to-gay-sons-suicide

More articles we’d like you to see from other outlets both Minnesota and National forums:
http://www.wegiveadamn.org/2010/09/group-organizes-to-ban-mention-of-homosexuality-in-schools-as-community-deals-with-gay-teen-suicides/
http://thecolu.mn/4512/anoka-hennepin-beefing-up-anti-bullying-but-is-lgbt-left-out

Please check out the 54th Podcast of TheShowSoGay.com for an interview with Chris Wogamman and Tammy and Shawn Aaberg:
http://theshowsogay.podbean.com/

Remember Justin with us:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SHfFAl5Jhxc
http://www.legacy.com/obituaries/startribune/obituary.aspx?n=justin-norman-aaberg&pid=144048062&fhid=9267

It’s not just in MN, IN has suffered a great loss due to bullying:
http://www.fox59.com/news/wxin-greensburg-student-suicide-091310,0,1101685.story

The problem with this is, by removing LGBT people from history you tell the kids (that are LGBTQ), kids that you are suppose to be nurturing for the future, that they don’t exist.
http://www.anoka.k12.mn.us/education/components/whatsnew/default.php?sectiondetailid=233410&itemID=32271
What do you think of their sexual orientation policy?
http://www.anoka.k12.mn.us/education/page/download.php?fileinfo=NjA0LjExX1NleHVhbF9PcmllbnRhdGlvbl9DdXJyaWN1bHVtX1BvbGljeS5wZGY6Ojovd3d3Ni9zY2hvb2xzL21uL2Fub2thL2ltYWdlcy9kb2NtZ3IvMTUwNDlfZmlsZV80ODU4NV9tb2RfMTI2MDk5MTE5MC5wZGY=

New blog from Tony Jones:
http://blog.tonyj.net/2010/09/back-to-school-amidst-homophobia-and-bullying/#more-2256

Monday, September 13, 2010

Desire

Piercing eyes and porcelain skin,
His blushing lips hold a cherub’s kiss.
To taste, to want, to hold for an hour,
If it’s a sin, he’s worth the fire.

Monday, September 6, 2010

Not a Lover

You’re a concrete shadow, followin’ me around,
Your litany of manipulations, will no longer illicit sound,
You’re heroin, not a hero, a lovin’ fist to the face,
You’re an Angel of Death, without any grace.

You ever have one of those people in your life that make you think that they care by doing things for you, but you realize that in order to get them to show they care like that they have to neglect you and abuse you and make your life horrible God knows how many times first? Even talking to them is like sticking your big toe in a river that has a current so intense that that is all that is needed to pull you under... I am trying to think of how to describe this, but it is so intense that I'm blinded by what I am feeling.

Saturday, September 4, 2010

Wednesday, September 1, 2010

Goodreads Book Review - Faith For Beginners

Faith for Beginners: A NovelFaith for Beginners: A Novel by Aaron Hamburger

My rating: 2 of 5 stars


At first this book went really slow and I had a hard time catching its rhythm, but as I got it I grew to really like it. I really got into it although I felt detached somewhat from the characters, but I thought that you would get to know them better. However, you didn't. To me it felt disconnected and like a skipping record. There wasn't any impacting change in the main characters. The ended left much to be desired. I actually thought there was to be some big revelation and that is why the chapters were dwindling down, but there wasn't. I don't know if the writing style was so different I missed something or if it just failed as a book. I will admit however that I was compelled enough to try to figure out what was going on that I read more than half of the book in one sitting. Instead of my usual mourning of the end of a book and the end of my relationship with the characters, I was just confused. I tried to sleep on it before writing this, due to my agitation, but it is fired up by writing this. I just feel like I missed the point of the book and if it is what I think it is, there was too much deviation for my tastes to make that point and not enough color. Oh, and the players in this, they were almost fleshed out to be real people, but they didn't make it over the line and the characters stayed just that, characters. You didn't feel for them. I actually felt more for the homos Jeremy screwed with like they were toys because they were fleshed out enough to get hooked without conflicting detail. You also gained more insight into their being due to others' treatment of them than from the interaction of the major players. The organization too. Giving a chapter or two to other characters like the last one, really? I'm so agitated that I bought this. It had such great reviews in my old book club and I need to buy a full priced selection to meet requirements. Never again with the book clubs! Sticking to Amazon.com. I wouldn't normally go on like this, but I'm really irritated.



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