Deceitful...

I just recently found out that someone I thought was a good friend has been saying hurtful things behind my back. A couple of them were how I make everything about me and that I am always depressed and I bring this person down. I am rarely depressed and I'm not sure how often I really make things about me, however I do know that this particular is ALWAYS depressed, too much so in my opinion even considering recent events, and they definitely make things about themselves more than I do. I though we had gotten close and that we could talk about anything, we were working together so hard together to make the world a better place. Now they won't even return my texts, calls, emails, Facebook msgs, etc. No contact. However they feel comfortable to say these things and more about me to our mutual friends behind my back, the big kicker is one of the people they recently told they barely knew and they were a REALLY good friend of mine. One friend told me that this person seemed like they didn't know what to say to me and so they were venting and hoping for insight. Only ONE friend said that and I think that considering who it was they are always looking for the best in people. The thing is, you should still come to me first, or it is trash talking. Period. Spin it how you want, but I can come up with a valid, stronger counterpoint as to why what you did and are doing is wrong. I haven't been this disappointed in a person in a LONG time. This is a good example as to why I don't trust people. They make things way messier than they need to in life. Critiquing others before fixing themselves, cruel instead of constructive criticisms, sarcasm, name calling, judging and more judging. Confront stuff head on people. Say what is on your mind. Things don't blow out of proportion and they are much less difficult to overcome. Fix yourself and lead by example. More importantly, be the change you wish to see in the world, treat people not as you want them to treat you, but better than. If you give someone who is irresponsible, responsibility and encouragement, they will grow to fill those shoes. I'm sick of deceitful people...